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Until the day she found herself checked in to Vanderbilt Hospital’s Psychiatric Center, Sarah Thomas referred to a drunken sexual assault at the end of her freshman year of college as simply a “very bad night.” When her psychiatrist instead used the R-word to discuss to the incident, she was taken aback.

"I never had considered myself a rape victim," Thomas wrote in a piece detailing her experience for xoJane. "Can you call it ‘rape’ if he makes you an omelet in the morning?"

In all, it took Thomas 10 years to fully acknowledge that the night was more than “a bad memory,” and to call the evening what it really was: rape.

Thomas’ story is familiar to many. Every year, thousands of young men and women have very bad nights. These are nights that legally fall within the definitions of rape or sexual assault, but because they weren’t violent, didn’t involve the heteronormative definition of sex or were so clouded by alcohol or fear that consent was never explicitly denied — are not characterized as a crime, even by the survivor.

The frequent confusion and denial surrounding sexual assault make up the basis of a forthcoming study in the journal Gender & Society, in which sociologist Heather Hlavka concludes that sexual violence and harassment are considered part of everyday life for many middle and high school-aged girls. Hlavka interviewed 100 youths between the ages of three and 17 years old, and found that they frequently wrote off harassment and abuse, noting the female subject “overwhelmingly described [it] as ‘normal stuff’ that ‘guys do.’”

Rape and sexual assault are among the most under-reported crimes in the world, but until now little consideration has been given to the fact that some survivors don’t report because they do not realize that they were raped in the first place.

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That a secret fraternity is a breeding ground for rape culture is worrisome, but that it’s happening right in our nation’s capital makes that even harder to stomach. According to Erin Gloria Ryan’s research, one of the men in this email chain now works for a “prominent congressman.” Judging by how much rape culture permeates the political scene in the U.S., with influential politicians saying things like, “Rape is kinda like the weather. If it’s inevitable, just relax and enjoy it,” or that certain forms of sexual assault should be legal, it’s no surprise many women still feel like DC will never stop being an old boys club. Of course not all men (or fraternities) promote rape, but it’s troubling to see so many that do.

Leaked Emails From American University Frat Reveal Prevalence of Rape Culture in U.S. Capital - PolicyMic

This is all horrifying.

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And not exactly surprising, which makes it all the worse.

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Dear Young Women, You are Being Lied to About Your Salary Options

On the heels of yet another Paycheck Fairness Act defeat, you may be scratching your head and wondering why, in 2014, equal pay is still just a fantasy. Well, ladies and gentlemen, GOP activist Phyllis Schlafly has the answer.

According to Schlafly, not only is equal pay for equal work a “notorious falsehood,” but there’s actually a very simple, very obvious reason why women don’t — and shouldn’t — earn as much as men: hypergamy. In other words, women prefer to have a higher-earning husband. If the pay gap were eliminated, “Half of women would be unable to find what they regard as a suitable mate.” Better yet, “The pay gap between men and women is not all bad because it helps to promote and sustain marriages.”

The thinking here is that not only is every woman straight, but every woman’s biggest concern is finding and keeping a husband. 

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I no longer believed in the idea of soul mates, or love at first sight. But I was beginning to believe that a very few times in your life, if you were lucky, you might meet someone who was exactly right for you. Not because he was perfect, or because you were, but because your combined flaws were arranged in a way that allowed two separate beings to hinge together. Lisa Kleypas, Blue-Eyed Devil  (via sundaylatte)

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sonianeverland:

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azurite-crystals:

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Robin Thicke

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Justin Timberlake

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This is ok and artsy and oh wow how modern

Miley Cyrus

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THIS IS OBSCENE WHAT A SLUT I CANNOT BELIEVE THIS IS WHAT SHES DOING THIS IS MADDNESS HOW DARE SHE WHAT A SLUT WHAT DOES HER FATHER THINK I AM GOING TO FAINT

Is this correct?

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Because naked women have to be under a man’s control or else they’re dangerous and scary

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whovian1204:

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YES.

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FUN FACT: you only need 10 people to start a religion……. 

Well, this one has over 25,000, so…

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